True Love After 40

Everyone has different ideas about why marriages succeed or fail.  John Gottman has done over 20 years of research with couples and written books on his findings, including Why Marriage Succeed or Fail, which I highly recommend.  A more recent book of his is The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.  I love this book because it has exercises for couples to do together to improve their marriage.

No, John Gottman knows his stuff and in his "love labs" where he does his research with couples, he says he can predict within three minutes whether a couple will remain together.  That's pretty intense! 

For those of you who are married, you're in your own personal "love lab" every day with your spouse.  I'd love to know your opinion about why your marriage is working (or what you think it would take for it to work better).  For those of you who were married and have been divorced, what do you think contributed to the marriage ending?  If you are widowed, do you consider that your marriage was a success or failure?  Why or why not?

Michelle E. Vásquez, MS, LPC, Your Successful Singles Love Coach