True Love After 40

When dating, you just know what's attractive and what's not.  You can tell in less than 5 minutes after meeting someone new.  It takes seconds to make a first impression, and if it's negative, you have blown it. 

Now it's your time to talk.  Tell me your opinion on these questions:  

• What behaviors turns you on about the opposite sex? (behaviors, people, not sexual stuff.  Post that somewhere else; this is a PG site)
  
• What are your pet peeves about the opposite sex?
• What behaviors make you interested or intrigued?
• What attitudes make you want to run for cover?
• Spill the beans about your best/worst first date (remember, keep it rated PG, people)
  

Here's your chance to rant.  I would love to hear from you and start a dialogue with this topic.  So many people wonder why they continue to fall into the friendship category or never hear from someone again after the first date.  Give some poor dude or dudette some tips that can improve their chances of making that connection.

PS, a woman from NV, wrote:

Michelle, where to start? Talking about an ex ... Men who are too attached to their mothers ... complaining about just about anything.

I could go on and on. And you know, I'm sure there would be more. But the last time I dated was pre-email and cell phones. At least they weren't main stream then. So I'm sure my list could be even longer!

Seriously, complaining in general is a real turn off. That would probably be #1.

People are answering this question in my newsletter.

ND, a man from OH, wrote:

Neediness in a woman is such a turn off.  She expects you t call her every day after a first date!  Women with attitude just piss me off.  They think they deserve to get a meal from me.  I don't mind spending the money, but at least apreciate that I did it!  Sometimes they don't even say thank you.

PC, a woman from TX said this: Never make a comment about a womans weight whether joking or not its a sore subject & 1 that will keep you single longer than you can ever imagine.