True Love After 40

Turn your love life around!

• Are you sick and tired of women telling you "let's just be friends"?
• Do you get tongue-tied around attractive women?
• Has your love life become a "one date wonder"?
• Are you baffled by how other men attract women effortlessly while you're stuck on the sideline?
  
• Do you just want to learn to pick up chicks or are you looking to find someone special? 

Are you like the dog that chases the car?  When he catches it he has no idea how to drive it. 

You want to get the girl and make a connection but you don't know how. First of all, it's important that if you're looking for the one for you, you cannot keep taking short cuts.  If you're a man in your 30's or older, you probably have some failures with women under your belt.   If you want to get it right this time around, then it's important that you take time to do the right things. 

If all you want is attract women, you will miss out on laying the foundation for creating something special.  The short cut you take today will end up taking longer. 

If you simply want to attract women, you can learn how to do that. However, what will happen when you find one you really like, but you have no idea how to keep her?  If you haven't laid the foundation by getting to know yourself and what you want and need, you will have a hard time attracting someone who is compatible and keeping the one who is.

The focus of the rest of this article is to give you some tips about how to be more charming with women.  The American Heritage Dictionary defines charm as "the power or quality of pleasing, attracting, or fascinating." 

If you want to attract women, you have to understand how they think and what they're attracted to.  You have to be willing to study your subjects.  Here's an example: if you like to fish, you have to understand the fish's habits.  You learn what they're biting on.  In the same way, you need to learn what appeals to women.  You may think you already know. You'd be surprised at what is actually attractive and what turns them off. 

Let's take a look at your basic social skills.  If you're timid, you won't meet many women.  It's up to you to address this fear.  What are you afraid will happen?  I'll bet rejection is at the top of your list.  Most of us humans with a pulse fear rejection. Why?  Because we want people to like us.  Rejection hurts. 

You really want to screen out about 95% of the women you meet. When they reject you, they've done you a favor.  Now you can move on quickly to the next one.  But this is, of course, after you've figured out what is attractive to women. Your chances of rejection will go down significantly when you have learned the charm to attract the women you're interested in.

Here are a few things thatare attractive to women:

Neat dressers   

Women like a man with style, who cares about his appearance.  She doesn't necessarily need a man to wear a three piece suit, but she wants to see that you took the time to look good.  This promotes mystery also.  She wants to know more about that stylish man. 

Gentleman-like behavior   

Holding a door for her and walking on the outside of the sidewalk are behaviors she'll notice.  Focus on the small details.

Positive attitude   

Complainers need not apply.  Negativity detracts.  You'd think this was common sense, but you'd be surprised at how often men come across as complainers on a first date.  Learn some ways to deflect negative subjects, especially when you first meet.

Taking the lead 

If you decide to take a woman to a restaurant for your first date, please, please, please, guys, don't ask the girl, "Where do you want to go for dinner?"  Be decisive.  Have a plan. It's better to make your first meeting at a coffee shop.  No alcohol; you want to keep your wits about you.

Good conversationalist   

If it's all about you, you've already lost her. A great conversationalist understands that people's favorite topic is themselves.  If you want to attract her, ask her to talk about herself.  Make sure you have a dialogue. Save the soliloquy for your role as Hamlet at the community theater.

Self-confidence 

Self-confidenceis not arrogance.  Start with your posture and your stride.  Watch other men who are confident and see how they walk, talk, and act. Also, it's important that even if you are desperate for a relationship, that you not let this neediness show.  Nothing scares women off faster than neediness. 

Eye contact 

If you avoid looking a woman in the eye, you come across as weak.  If you stare too hard at her, you look like a psycho.  Find that balance.

Understanding when to make a move and when to hold back and wait 

Timing is essential.  If you cannot read her body language that says "come hither" or "back off, buster" you must learn how to read her.  Sorry, guys, but only the most self-aware woman will help you with this.

Dancing!   

So many women love to dance that you would do well to learn.  It's a great way to meet women and practice your charm on them.

Don't be like the dog that chases the car only to find he has no idea how to drive it.  I'm your driver's ed instructor.  Learn to Attract and Keep the woman of your dreams in the Charm School for Men program.  Class begins September 12, 2009.  Learn more and Sign up here.