True Love After 40

You've heard the expression "Birds of a feather flock together," right?  Miserable people find each other; so do angry people.  If you take anger with you on your quest to find a life partner, you are very likely to end up with someone who is also angry.  Grant it, you may have every reason in the world to be angry, but ask yourself these questions:

• Is holding onto this anger getting me what I want?  
• Am I finding the kind of person I want for a life partner?
• What is the main theme I have in common with the people I associate with?  The unfairness of being single?  How there are no good ones left?  How it's impossible to meet a stable, healthy person?
  

Anger is an expression of fear: fear of getting what you don't want or not getting what you do want.  In the case of dating and being unable make a connection, holding onto anger becomes a defense.  It's a shield that keeps you from interacting in a meaningful way.  Even if you believe you are a wonderful person, your expression of anger is all your date can see.  The anger that is serving to protect you from getting hurt, is also keeping you from truly connecting with another human being who could be a potential life partner.

If you continue on this path, where will you be in a year?  What about in 5 years?  Keep doing what you're doing and you'll keep getting the same results.  Holding onto old behaviors that are keeping you from finding happiness in relationships is painful.  If you'd like to learn some new ways of relating in your dating life, I'd love to talk with you.