True Love After 40

What you tell yourself about yourself is true.  At least, you believe it.  If you tell yourself long enough, what you say about yourself becomes "who you are."  This would be great if you only said wonderful things about yourself.  Unfortunately, too many people are plagued with negative mind chatter.  This is especially true for Singles when it comes to dating.  If you're a Single who experiences doubts about your ability to attract and keep the love of your life, keep reading.  You are not alone.

Here are some examples of negative thoughts that may be familiar to you:

·    I'm too shy to attract anyone

·    If I go out on a date with this person, it will end badly, so why bother

·    I'm not worthy to find the love of my life

·    I'm not good enough

Why do Singles experience negative mind chatter?  Some reasons are fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, a problem with self-image, and insecurity, to name just a few.  Unfortunately, if you keep allowing these thought patterns to rule you, you will live your life in fear,  regretting what might have been.

Even shy people get dates and find the love of their lives.  Why not you?  If you wait until you are "perfect" you will never start.  I challenge you to begin arguing with these destructive thoughts that roam around in your brain.  Yes, talk back.  When you hear a negative thought, here are some statements that you can say in response:

·    I'm able to attract the love of my life easily

·    I enjoy myself when I go out on a date and I let go of expectations about the outcome

·    Of course I'm worthy of finding the love of my life

·    I'm not only good enough, I am a great catch

Try out these affirmations and create your own.   Don't worry if they seem silly or untrue.  The key to changing any habit (such as negative thought patterns) is to substitute with a new habit and be persistent.  Let me know how it works for you!

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