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Loving Relationships Heal Hurts: Heal Your Past in Your Present
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A loving relationship can go a long way to heal the hurts of the past. You trust each other enough to be vulnerable instead of defensive. You are able to explore past hurts and let them go. You can grow together as you co-create the relationship of your dreams.
When you are able to trust the one you're with, you can allow yourself to be vulnerable and let down your guard. You understand that your partner is not going to repeat the hurts of the past, at least not intentionally. You can begin to redefine yourself with your partner and let go of previous pain. It may be scary to be this vulnerable, but it gets easier as you go along and build positive experiences together.
With the help of someone you have chosen to trust, you can explore past hurts. Letting go of the pain of the past is never a straight path. Inside your relationship, you choose new patterns to replace the old ones that did not work for you. When you both turn toward each other with support and acceptance, you don't have to reach for defensiveness as your first reaction.
What is best about this is you and your partner have an amazing opportunity to grow as a couple. You get to work together to create a happy, passionate relationship. The rewards of this are limitless and you are able to do this because you trust the one you love. You get to decide to break the negative patterns of your respective pasts and live in a way that suits the two of you best.
It's not easy to do this and often, even if couples have the best of intentions, they need outside help to create this wonderful, trusting life together. That's where relationship coaching comes in handy. You can create your vision for your relationship and set your goals for living the life you've dreamed of with the one you love.
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Amen to that, once one is ready to drop the guard and forget the hurting happened before, quits comparing the new partner with the previous relationships gone badly, you can grow together. But how easy is that? It took me years after my divorce to come to the point where I finally can say now that I am ready to see a new love a new woman as a new opportunity. I am ready to let my guard down.
You are so right here, only if one lets the guard down and allows the partner to ?invade? what most might call Privacy two can grow together. But still that has to go both ways and both need to do that.
Especially when you are hurt more than once it is not only not easy but a huge task ? but just like my old grand pappy used to say ? Nobody is ever too old to learn and if there is a will there is a way, it is all about the willingness to do that.
God bless you for your great post
The only problem with this whole theory is that some of us have been so badly damaged that it is almost impossible to find that kind of loving relationship and benefit from its healing powers. I, for example, have been searching for three years without any luck. I am currently 'in love with' a guy who clearly isn't reciprocating, hoping he will change his mind, for the simple fact that I haven't met anyone else who interests me in the past two years. Giving up completely on love isn't really an option, but sometimes I feel that is what I need to do, just to save my sanity. My dating track record is so bad that I have turned to psychics for advice, just to keep my spirits up.
I dream of the day I have a loving relationship, so I can forget all the crap I'm going through right now!
So, do the psychics predict something good for your future?
Most of us go to that default behavior and become 10 year old children in the school yard when we are faced with conflict. Learning something else takes time and the willingness to practice.
trueloveafter40 says...
Yes - the psychics all tell me I have love coming to me. I've yet to see any manifesting, however.
I suppose I should add Harville Hendricks' book to my collection.
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