True Love After 40

Today's message from Louise L. Hay's "I Can Do It" Cards: My heart is the center of my power. I follow my heart.

I have found in my marriage that when I stick to "cold, hard facts" and ignore what my heart tells me, I tend to get off balance.  Following my heart, I am able to feel compassion for my husband when we are in conflict. When I don't follow my heart, I only want to win the argument. When I follow my heart, I am able to see his point of view.

Following my head, or just using pure logic creates a situation in which I look for flaws in my husband's statements.  I become a lawyer, determined to poke holes in his argument.  I no longer care about his thoughts and feelings. I simply want to win.

Following my heart means I show empathy and I seek to understand the situation and my husband.  I want to create a win-win situation with him. I want to end up with us feeling closer to each other.

For me, following my heart means I do everything I can to figure out how to create a happy, successful marriage.  Of course, I'm human, so I don't get it right all the time. I am grateful that each day I get a new opportunity to work on ways to make it better.

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