True Love After 40

So often I hear people say that they don't know why they don't get what they want.  This is especially true in relationships.  They describe themselves in glowing terms while often describing their partner very negatively. 

Their thoughts about themselves are, "What's not to like?" while the one they're with is sub-par.  They lament that they aren't getting the love they feel they deserve. The problem is they are telling themselves a story!

Yes, they are blind to their faults and irritating behaviors.  They only see what their spouse is doing that drives them crazy.

If you are a friend who patiently hears such stories, bless you. Before you jump to defend the person who cannot see the forest for the trees, remind yourself that you are only hearing one side of the story.  You may be too polite to point out the blind spots of your lamenting friend.  You may also realize that it is fruitless, so you hold your tongue. 

Wouldn't it be wonderful if more people were willing to step back and look at themselves before they moan about how they cannot get what they want? Wouldn't it be great if more people actually asked themselves,"What am I doing to contribute to the well-being (or demise) of this relationship?" before pointing a finger accusingly and saying, "You need to make me happy?"

If you're experiencing some blind spots and are interested in making some adjustments that will create morehappiness in your life, my TrueLove Coaching Calls or Mastermind Relationship Group Coaching may be exactly what you need!  If you are the partner of someone with major blind spots, even better.  When you agree to work on yourself, amazing things happen in your relationship!