True Love After 40

According to Dr. William Glasser's Choice Theory, criticizing and complaining are two of the Seven Deadly Habits of External Control. These habits will destroy relationships. 

Criticism is the first habit because it is the deadliest. When you are on the receiving end of criticism, you can feel pretty awful.  It has a cumulative effect, weighing you down until you believe all the bad things being said to you.

Before you complain and criticize your spouse with the words "You're not the same person I married" ask yourself how you've changed. 

• Have you gotten sloppier in your table manners? The way you dress?
• Have you stopped doing those things that made your spouse smile?
• Have you stopped being polite?
• Are you taking your spouse for granted?

My hope for every couple is that they are not the same as when they married each other.  My hope is that they are better.  I hope they choose to continue to learn and grow and become closer to each other.

If you are a couple (or part of a couple) experiencing this habit, join me on Thursday, January 7, for a free one hour, informative and interactive workshop on this topic.  Sign up here: http://www.trueloveafter40.com/workshopsignup.htm