True Love After 40

Dirty Laundry: Everyone Should Know How Bad My Spouse is  

The more you focus on the negative traits of your spouse, the more pronounced they seem to be.  The truth is, unless you are "without sin" you have some negative habits also. One of the most destructive things you can do to your relationship is to talk badly about your spouse to others.

Now, I'm not saying that you should keep silent if you are in a domestic violence situation.  I'm saying that when you gossip about the one you chose "for better or for worse" you are being disloyal to your spouse. 

If you are dealing with some major problems in your relationship, see a Therapist or a Relationship Coach.  That way you can be assured of privacy.  Otherwise, you risk giving your friends the idea that your spouse is a no good loser and they'll be mad at you when you stay together after all the rotten things you've told them in the heat of anger.

Here's a novel idea: you can choose to be a positive example.  The next time you are with a group of friends who are speaking badly about their spouses, decide that you will say something positive about yours.

Next habit: Forget "Seek First to Understand" and Bring on "Shoot First and Ask Questions Later"

If you are a couple (or part of a couple) experiencing this habit, join me on Thursday, January 7, for a no cost one hour, informative and interactive workshop on this topic.  Sign up here: http://www.trueloveafter40.com/workshopsignup.htm