True Love After 40

Yikes.  This is great advice if you are completely suave and debonair, your hair is always perfect, and you never have any problems with things like "cat-got-your-tongue" syndrome or that time-honored tradition of tripping over your own feet when you're just a teensy bit nervous.

Most of us cannot claim to be this smooth.  Here are some ideas to increase the confidence of the average male dater:

o   Have a plan. Even if it's just coffee at Starbucks, having a plan helps reduce nervousness.

o   You are there to get to know her and the best way to do this is to talk. Make a list of topics to discuss that are light and general.  Go over your list until you are sure you can bring it to mind easily.  PS: DON'T bring the list with you!

o   My favorite: go for a walk.  That way, you can talk while doing something that doesn't involve looking straight at each other for a half hour. 

There are many more things you can do, of course.  Hope this helps start you on your road to confident dating. My new program, "Facilidating: Dating Made Easy for Men," will launch nextweek, right before Christmas.  Stay tuned and I'll make sure you know all about it!