True Love After 40

People who are stubbornly committed to making their marriages work tend to survive the tough times and are generally happier than those who throw in the towel at the first sign of conflict. The book The Case For Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better off Financially, by Linda J. Waite and Maggie Gallagher, turned some "facts" about marriage on their heads.

Are you stubbornly committed to your marriage? Do you take your wedding vows seriously?  People who have the "whatever it takes" attitude go through conflicts just like the rest of us married folks.  The difference is their commitment keeps them together, even when they are seriously at odds.  Strangely, they weather the storms of conflict and come out better than before.

Are you ready to run at the first sign of conflict? Do you secretly plan your escape from your marriage whenever you argue with your spouse?  This mindset is already the beginning of seeing marriage as something that is easily thrown away.  It keeps the tension and conflict high because you never know if you'll still be together this time next year or even next month.

Do you ride the fence? Do you sometimes believe you are committed to your marriage and at other times feel ready to flee?  Sorry, folks, but that's like being a little bit pregnant.  You are either committed or not committed to your marriage.  It is not a part time thing.  The good news is that you can make a decision right now to be committed to co-creating a happy, successful marriage with your spouse.

Committed couples are happier than uncommitted ones. They are a stubborn bunch of people, determined to keep their marriages together.  Does this sound like something you want to do? Are you ready to make some improvements that will benefit your marriage?

I invite you to sign up now to receive my free report on the Seven Deadly Habits and how they can destroy your relationship. In this report I talk about what you can do differently so you can reduce the tension in your relationship and create a more loving marriage for you and your spouse.