True Love After 40

If you don't love yourself, no one else can ever give you enough love to make up for your lack of self-love. You will be constantly questioning whether he really loves you. You will doubt whether you are truly lovable and fear she will leave you. Your need to receive love that you are not giving yourself will eventually erode any real love from your partner.

When you do not accept yourself and love yourself, you have a hard time believing that another person can actually love you. You spend your time worrying and wondering if it's true. When you are able to see yourself as a person who is worthy of love, you stop questioning his love. Once you can stop questioning his love, you can step out of this neediness and begin to give and receive love.

Doubting you are lovable leads to fear that she will leave you. You cannot give her the love she needs because you are so focused on your own belief that she doesn't really love you. You can go in several directions with this: being extremely needy and asking for constant encouragement or being angry that she cannot fill the gaping hole your need for love creates.

A healthy person can only take so much insecurity from another person. Eventually, the thing you fear will come true. It's very hard for one person to give love to someone who constantly questions and doubts her/his love. No matter how much love your partner wants to give you, if you don't believe that you are worthy, you will drive your partner away.

As you can see, it is so important that you learn to accept and love yourself. When you do this, you are able to give and receive love. You don't have to get it perfect before you begin to seek someone to spend your life with. You just have to start yourself on the path to becoming a person who believes in yourself and your worthiness to be loved.

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