True Love After 40

Holding grudges will erode the love in your marriage.  When you hold grudges you build resentment and anger. You allow your marriage to begin a downhill slide that can snowball into bigger problems. You block any chance of having a peaceful, stress-free home.

If you've ever held a grudge against your spouse for a real or imagined offense, you know how you can nurse the grudge until you are consumed by it.  You go to sleep thinking about how angry you are.  When you wake up it's the first thought on your mind. You feel resentful and angry and those feelings don't go away over time.

Once you've been holding onto the grudge for several days, it gets easier to keep holding onto it.  You start to build a case against your spouse, thinking only of the bad qualities and ignoring the good ones.  It gets even easier to think of your spouse as the bad guy. Hold several grudges at a time and you can even convince yourself that the marriage is doomed and you need to call a divorce lawyer.

By holding onto grudges, you have given up having a peaceful, stress-free home.  It's like you have decided that you would rather be right and miserable than to work on committing to making your marriage work. That's your ego talking.  If you truly want to co-create a loving, peaceful place for your marriage, the grudges have got to go.

The reason couples go to marriage counseling is often so one spouse can get the therapist to fix the other.  Your marriage is not mentally ill! You have gotten stuck in a rut by doing things that make your marriage worse.  Relationship Coaching can get you back on track.

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