True Love After 40

When you join Facilidating, Dating Made Easy for Men, here are the first 10 lessons you will receive:

Lesson 1:       Improve Your Confidence: Exercises to Jump Start You

Lesson 2:       Handle Rejection with Ease While Reducing its Occurrence

Lesson 3:       Qualifying Questions: Responding with Confidence and Humor

Lesson 4:       Be the Attraction Magnet: Skills You Must Master

Lesson 5:       A Man is Known By his Appearance: Dress for Success

Lesson 6:       You Are In Charge: Be the Man With a Plan

Lesson 7:       Conversation Starters: Have Her Eating Out of Your Hand

Lesson 8:       What Do You Want? Determining the Best Woman for You

Lesson 9:       Warning Signs: If She's Trouble on a First Date, Get Out Now

Lesson 10:    The Art of Chivalry: Gentleman or Nice Guy? You Decide

For more information about this exciting, informative membership program, go to http://www.facilidating.com

Make this year's resolution to create a happy, successful YOU, so you can have a happy successful relationship.

I was so pleased that one of my callers on tonight's tele-workshop was a single woman who wanted to work on herself before she gets into a relationship so she can get it right this time around.  She really made my night!

Too many people are focused on finding someone to love that they forget to work on creating the best self they can be so they can have a quality relationship.  Just as water seeks its own level, similar people will attract each other.

If you are in a place of fear, lack, and desperation, guess what kind of person you will attract?

You can become the best YOU you can be.  Believe in yourself and don't do this alone.  Find support in your self-growth journey.  Read, spend time with positive people, branch out and you will encounter many other people on similar paths.

I wish you the best of success!

If you are single and you want to be in a happy relationship, you know how discouraging it can be at times.  That's why you need support.  It's hard to stay optimistic when you ar eseeking the one for you and you keep stumbling.

So don't do it alone.  Who do you have in your life that supports and encourages you?  If you have surrounded yourself with people who tend to be negative and pessimistic, it's time to find new people to hang out with.

Negativity breeds more  of the same.  During this time of year when people are deciding what they want to do differently, it would be helpful for you to do some soul searching.

Decide today what you need to do to surround yourself with positive people who will encourage you in your quest to find the one you'd like to spend your life with.

If you want some guidance, I have 3 levels of Mastermind Group Coaching in which you can receive support and guidance from both me as the coach and other singles who are also seeking the one for them.  Check out the different groups here: http://www.trueloveafter40.com/ratesservices.htm " target="_blank">http://www.trueloveafter40.com/ratesservices.htm.

Your first date is important, wouldn't you agree?  I want to go into some more detail about how you dress on a first date in this blog entry.

1.      If you are a woman, you can make a lasting impression by focusing on your femininity.  That means wearing a skirt or dress.  Most men will do a double take when they see a woman in a flowing skirt.  Long and flowing is preferable.  Keep a sense of mystery about you by leaving the mini-skirt in the closet.

2.      Men, many women have complained to me that men under-dress for dates, so you can score big points with her simply by wearing (color-coordinated) dress pants and a shirt that buttons.  You can leave off the tie and jacket for a simple first date.

3.      Make sure you look good and smell good.  A small amount of perfume or cologne goes along way!  Put a small amount of your favorite scent on at least 20 minutes before you arrive so your date doesn't smell you before seeing you.

4.      Remember the breath mints?  Still important!  So is proper hygiene.  If you're a man, make sure you are freshly shaved or if you have a beard, make sure it's neatly trimmed.  Women, invest in hair products that make your hair smooth and touchable.  He may not touch on a first date, but you want him to want to!

More tips to follow!  I'd love to know your ideas for a first date,so leave a comment.

If you're a man who wants help with your dating skills, check out Facilidating: Dating Made Easy for Men.  The special introductory price ends January 7, 2010, at midnight.

Here are some important things to keep in mind when you are going on a first date with someone:

1. When in doubt about how to dress, keep it comfortable and a step above casual.  No torn jeans or t-shirts of any kind.  You want to make a great first impression, so Dress for Date Success.  Men, you will get extra points with most women if you dress well!
2. Make sure your appearance is neat and clean.  Poor hygiene is a one-way ticket to making your first date your last.
3. Breath mints!  I cannot emphasize this enough.  You may not get to a kiss at the end of a first date, but you still want to have fresh breath.  Breath mints are your best friend on a first date!
4. Unless you are in a career where you must be on call, turn off your cell phone.  If you cannot spend 30 to 60 minutes without making or receiving a call, find another time to make a date.  This is a big dating DON'T.
5. Take a deep breath and relax.  This is a simple meeting with a fellow human being. 

More tips to follow!  I'd love to know your ideas for a first date, so leave a comment.

If you're a man who wantshelp with your dating skills, check out Facilidating: Dating Made Easy for Men.  The special introductory price ends January 7, 2010, at midnight.

First dates can be awkward and uncomfortable if you tend to be on the shy side.  Keep in mind that you're only going to meet another person and share a short period of time together.  If both of you are prone to shyness an hour can feel like a day.

So, what to do?  Develop a list of questions to start a conversation.  Keep these questions light.  You don't want to come across as an interrogator.  Let's say you're a single parent and you want to know how your date feels about children.  Here's a great first date question:

"The other day I took my daughter to the park.  She loves the swings and begs me to take her there at least once a week.  I sometimes walk the track there.  Do you ever go to the park?"

Of course, this is an example that you can modify for your own uses, citing a particular park or other place you frequent with your child. It breaks the ice about children and sets up a possible second date to walk the track at the park.

I hope this gets yourcreative mind working!

If you're a man who wants help with your dating skills, check out Facilidating: Dating Made Easy for Men. The special introductory price ends January 7, 2010, at midnight.

What I understand from the Seduction Community is that men get the short end of the stick when it comes to dating.  They maintain that dating is for women and all geared toward women getting a nice meal while men are hoping for sex and feel ripped off when don't get it.

Seems pretty cynical to me, but I'd like to be fair.  I'm waiting for Clickbank to approve my new program for men, "Facilidating: Dating Made Easy for Men."  I have heard the complaints and I want to help men understand what is going on in women's minds.  I also want to help men date in such a way that they don't think they're getting jerked around by the women they go out with.

Guys, the girls don't want this either.  If you're looking to date a woman of quality, do your homework.  If you're simply dating to score, there are plenty of male dating gurus out there who can help you with that.  Instead, I propose to teach you how to find a woman to build a relationship with (that's why my audience is NOT men in their 20's!).

You're a man in his mid 30'sor older who is ready to find a life-partner. You may have several failed relationships under your belt. You are much more discerning than you were in your 20's and you're ready to learn what it takes to do it right this time around. Facilidating is almost ready to launch. Sign up for my newsletter and I'll make sure you get the word when it's up and operational!

Attention: "Nice" Guys!

Wouldn't it be great if you could quickly and easily learn how to keep a woman interested, engaged, and attracted to you? Life would be so much easier if only you could figure out how to keep a girl attracted. 

Stop the "one date wonder" syndrome. Finding a woman of quality to date can be hard, but doesn't have to be.  Too many times you think she's great at first and you even think she's interested. After the first date, here comes the kicker:

1. She acts like she's interested, but she says she's too busy

2. After the first date she doesn't return your phone calls

3. She goes out with you again, but she says, "I just want to be friends."

4. She is so hard to figure out.

5. It appears she's really into you, but she flakes out.

Why is it so hard to find an interested girl and get her to go out with you more than one time?

• If you've been out of the dating scene for a while, the rules have changed and it's essential that you learn the new rules of the road
• What used to work doesn't cut it anymore
• Women have become more sophisticated and are expecting more from you on a first date

You know how other coaches will teach you plenty of pick up lines but not how to keep the one you're interested in?  If you're familiar with The Seduction Community and Pick Up Artists, you may also realize that Pick Up Artists may get the girl, but fail to keep her. 

I know you're interested in finally figuring this out once and for all, so here's what I do differently:

• I am interested in your success over the long-haul, not just in your ability to "pick up chicks"
• I teach you how to develop a relationship with the one for you
• I help you create the framework for a future, instead of simply handing you easy pick-up lines
• I give you insight into women's thoughts and behaviors to help you demystify your dating experience
• I have 16 years experience as a psychotherapist specializing in working with couples and singles with relationship struggles
  

Here are some valuable things you will learn:

• One critical thing you absolutely must avoid doing if you want to get her interested and going out with you
• How to respond to her "qualifying" questions, such as,"What kind of car do you drive?" with ease and humor
• Show her a great time, even if you are on a budget
• 3 behaviors women find attractive
• 5 simple strategies to overcome the touch barrier on the first date without getting slapped
• Reading her signals that tell you if she's interested in seeing you again
• Getting the next date in the bag
• How to customize your own "first date conversation" so you can know if she's "second-date worthy" or if you should "get out now."

This exciting and informative program is launching in less than a week.  If you are interested in learning more, sign up for my Successful Singles Newsletter and get the news delivered to your email inbox! Click here to sign up: http://www.trueloveafter40.com/newsletter.htm

Yikes.  This is great advice if you are completely suave and debonair, your hair is always perfect, and you never have any problems with things like "cat-got-your-tongue" syndrome or that time-honored tradition of tripping over your own feet when you're just a teensy bit nervous.

Most of us cannot claim to be this smooth.  Here are some ideas to increase the confidence of the average male dater:

o   Have a plan. Even if it's just coffee at Starbucks, having a plan helps reduce nervousness.

o   You are there to get to know her and the best way to do this is to talk. Make a list of topics to discuss that are light and general.  Go over your list until you are sure you can bring it to mind easily.  PS: DON'T bring the list with you!

o   My favorite: go for a walk.  That way, you can talk while doing something that doesn't involve looking straight at each other for a half hour. 

There are many more things you can do, of course.  Hope this helps start you on your road to confident dating. My new program, "Facilidating: Dating Made Easy for Men," will launch nextweek, right before Christmas.  Stay tuned and I'll make sure you know all about it!

First of all, it's normal to feel a bit nervous if you are meeting someone you don't know very well, so rest assured that you are normal!  People that don't feel just a bit anxious may be doing themselves a disservice.  Think about it.  If you're totally relaxed, you may become lax and overlook some important details.  Take a look at these tips and make your first date a more enjoyable experience.

o   Lower your expectations.  This is an opportunity to meet someone and have a pleasant conversation, nothing more at this point.

o   Keep it simple. Your first conversation need not be philosophical.  Have some "fun facts" about your life in your back pocket that you would share with most people and start there.

o   Ask questions. Important: this is not an interrogation. Ask questions that keep a lively conversation going.  These are ones that begin with "How" a lot of times: "How did you decide to become a ________?"(insert profession/hobby/whatever).  Questions that show you are genuinely interested in the person are always helpful on a first date.

If you are interested in learning more about dating, hang on for another week.  I am launching Facilidating: Dating Made Easy for Men, next week.